People-pleasers are not always as pure-hearted as they want people to believe. When you live to accommodate everyone else, you are not necessarily being kind. Sometimes, you are simply being dishonest with yourself and others. You present a version of yourself that makes everyone comfortable while secretly building up resentment.
You say yes when you want to say no, accept invitations you don't want to attend, take on responsibilities you don't have the capacity for, and laugh at jokes that offend you. You do all these things to avoid disappointing people or making anyone uncomfortable. Then you go home exhausted, angry, and resentful, wondering why people keep taking advantage of you.
But here is the uncomfortable truth: sometimes, people keep crossing your boundaries because you never make those boundaries clear. Nobody forced you to agree to everything. You volunteered, even when you knew you didn't want to.
We have a way of dressing up people-pleasing as kindness, selflessness, and empathy. But sometimes, what looks like kindness is actually a fear of rejection, confrontation, or disapproval. You are so concerned about how people perceive you that you keep sacrificing your time, energy, needs, and peace of mind to keep them comfortable.
You cannot keep betraying yourself to make other people happy and then blame them for taking you at your word. Learn to say no. You can be a good person without being available to everyone.