When I was 14, I started learning kanji and immediately complained about stroke order.
context: Japanese uses adapted Chinese characters called kanji. Kids in Japan are taught to write each one in an exact stroke order, not just to make it look right.
"Why does it matter if it looks the same at the end?"
My mom was a math teacher, so she was used to me complaining about things like this and usually had an answer. She isn't Japanese, though, so this one stumped her.
I'd started Japanese at 11 but only knew hiragana and katakana. My public high school in Michigan offered Japanese, and I wanted to test into Japanese 2. To do that, I had to memorize 50 kanji by the end of the week. I had about two days. 40 would've gotten me a B, which was fine, but I wanted all 50.
So my mom stayed up with me until midnight with flashcards. I got 100% on Friday's test. Then it came time to actually learn to write them, and I froze.
I told her stroke order was stupid and a waste of time. "This is America. Surely we can do this more efficiently." She said I was on my own.
I tried everything to get around it. I drilled radicals on my own, looked for some cool calligraphy style to copy. Eventually I realized everything was just easier once I learned the stroke order.
This came up again recently! I was complaining to a friend who studied math at a high level that we're taught to memorize formulas without learning what math is actually doing. He said he felt the same way until grad school, when he realized you have to learn the formulas first because everything builds on them. I immediately thought of kanji. He's a native English speaker who learned Chinese characters for Mandarin, so he knew exactly what I meant.
It reminds me of what the neuroscientist Nikolai Bernstein called the degrees of freedom problem. Your body has too many possible ways to make any movement, so beginners lock most of them down. Once the movement becomes automatic, you can loosen up and get creative. I think rules like stroke order or memorized formulas do something similar for your mind: they narrow your options until the basics are automatic, and then you have room to actually think.
These days I barely handwrite kanji. Most of my Japanese is digital. But when I do write by hand, it's the kanji I learned back then, in the exact stroke order I learned at 14. A lot of processes seem inefficient or silly until you understand why they're there.
Memorization has an unfairly negative reputation. I recently spent a few hours memorizing the names of all the countries in the world and it's such a clear improvement in how well I can understand and reason about other topics. Memorization is scaffolding for more complex ideas