basically everyone is confused about whether they’re trying to obtain an outcome in the real world, or whether they’re just trying to feel better in a roundabout way
when something goes wrong adults will start figuring out who’s at fault, whether they made a mistake, how to prevent it from happening again, what it means about them, what other people will think. a child will just cry
ime dismantling the model itself is pretty useful for reasons apart from reducing suffering - you get tend to get better outcomes in all kinds of situations if you show up with curiosity instead of preconceptions
yeah the frustration is something to dissolve, though I haven't gotten around to it yet. the whole desire to have any other person understand or experience or believe anything is "food"
imagine that you live in a hunter-gatherer society. everybody else has structured their entire lives around food, and the whole society and tradition is basically about acquiring food. you, on the other hand, don't experience hunger
