I think one of the problems we have in Nigeria is that many people don't seem to understand that marriage changes family priorities.
Once someone gets married, their spouse and children become their immediate family and should come first(hence why you must marry the right partner).
Parents, siblings, cousins and other relatives are still important, but they become secondary.
For some reason, this is a very difficult concept for many Nigerian families to accept.
The post is one of the reasons why there is always family feud after a man dies.
We must learn to understand that a man doesnât belong to the wife and kids only, he also belongs to his âextendedâ family especially if his parents are still alive (permit me to use the term âextendedâ).
So, no one party can actually choose to do whatever they like with the man or his property especially when the man dies intestate. Everyone must come together and reach several compromise.
It is belief like this that fuels the family fued that exists after demise of a spouse.
Sometimes, it is not a case of people hating the widow but a case of people not wanting to accept that other people have rights to the deceased and his properties too.
In some countries like Singapore, if a man dies intestate and he has parents, the intestate succession act mandates that the wealth is shared equally between the spouse and parents.
Wives should learn to accommodate the husbandâs family in decisions around the deceased and the husbandâs family should also learn to accommodate and respect the wife in such scenarios too
@TheYemiKing